Comfort Is Killing Your Dreams
We all say we want change. We want to live as our highest self — calling in love, abundance, health, creativity, and purpose.
But here’s the reality:
Most people stay stuck in the wanting.
They stay stuck in interest.
→ “I’m interested in being healthier.”
→ “I’m interested in starting that business.”
→ “I’m interested in living from my highest self.”
Sound familiar? That’s okay — you’re not alone. We’ve all been there. But if you’re ready to break that loop, keep reading.
Here’s the hard truth: you don’t rise to the level of your intentions. You fall to the level of your commitment.
Why? Because comfort is quietly killing your dreams.
Interest sounds nice. It feels good to say out loud. But interest doesn’t transform your life.
Commitment does.
💥 Why Interest Keeps You Small
Being interested means you dabble. You read the book, listen to the podcast, maybe even join the workshop. You do the practices when it’s easy — when you’re rested, when your schedule is open, when things are flowing.
But the moment life gets busy, stressful, or uncomfortable, you default back to old patterns.
Why?
Because deep down — this one really punched me in the gut — your nervous system is more committed to comfort and survival than to your dreams.
It’s not because you’re lazy, broken, or unmotivated. It’s because your unconscious mind runs the show. And the unconscious mind does not care about your growth. It cares about one thing:
→ Keeping you safe.
Safe = familiar. Familiar = old patterns. Even the ones you say you’re done with.
Whoa… let that sink in.
This is the moment where we realize: we are not broken — we are wired for safety.
When we say we’re our own worst enemy, this is what we mean.
Think about it: how many times have you started a creative project, a new business plan, a better meal plan, a workout routine — or even tried to improve your relationships — only to get “too busy,” overwhelmed, or pulled back into old habits? That’s not failure. That’s your nervous system trying to keep you safe.
Instead, we need real healing. And to get there, we first need to understand what commitment is — and what it’s not.
⚡ What Commitment Actually Means
Commitment is not a mood — it transcends it.
Commitment is not waiting for the “right time” — it shows up no matter what.
Commitment is not just reading your affirmations or looking at your vision board and hoping for the best.
It’s not even just a consistent daily practice (though that’s a good place to start).
Commitment is:
Showing up for your next-level self even when it’s hard, uncomfortable, or inconvenient.
Reading your vision and embodying it.
Regulating your nervous system in the face of discomfort.
Watching yourself slip into old habits and instead of spiraling, saying: → “Thank God I noticed — now I get to choose again.”
Practicing embodiment over and over, until the new identity becomes your default.
Commitment is actually rewiring your neurology to feel safe as your new, expanded version of You.
🌊 Why It Feels Hard
Your system is not built for the new version of you… yet.
When you stretch into your next-level identity, your ego panics. It whispers:
“This feels dangerous.”
“Let’s just go back to what we know.”
“Who do you think you are?”
What it might actually look and feel like can be more subtle. For me, it often just looks like life getting busy — competing priorities that seem totally rational pull me away from my marketing plans for weeks on end.
Your unconscious mind is running your life behind the scenes, and its #1 priority is to keep you safe and alive. How it defines that safety, though well-intentioned, is also the reason you’re holding yourself back. We cannot just think our way to a new reality — we have to rewire our neurology. We have to teach our body what safety really is. This is why embodiment work matters.
Embodiment isn’t just visualizing or journaling.
It’s practicing the vibration of your future self in real time, especially when life pressures hit.
It’s deep belly breaths when your chest tightens.
It’s walking into the hard conversation as the version of you who already belongs and knows their worth.
It’s regulating your nervous system through the storm, not waiting for the storm to pass.
🔥 Journal Prompt (Do Not Skip This)
Where in my life am I more committed to my comfort and sense of safety than to my dreams?
Let it punch you in the gut. That’s the point.
Because once you name it, you can shift it.
💡 How to Begin the Shift
Get honest.
Notice where you are dabbling, circling, or self-sabotaging. No judgment. Pure clarity.
Radical self-awareness is a gift to yourself.Practice embodiment.
When you read your avatar or future vision, don’t just skim it to check off your daily practice.
→ Breathe it.
→ Feel it.
→ Live it right now — as you brush your teeth, cook dinner, send that email.Expect discomfort.
Growth is supposed to feel edgy. If you feel a little shaky, you’re doing it right.Celebrate every catch.
Noticing yourself in old patterns is a win, not a failure. Self-awareness is the portal to change. There is no failure; there’s only feedback.
🧐 Final Reflection
You don’t need more books, courses, or “figuring it out.”
You need embodied commitment.
Commitment means claiming the next-level you right now, not waiting to “be ready.”
It means dancing with discomfort, staying present, and letting your nervous system catch up to your dreams.
Because the real kicker is this: comfort is the cage that kills your dreams.
You are ready.
You’ve always been ready.
You just have to decide — not once, but every single day.
🔑 Key Reminder
“Interested people dabble when it’s easy. Committed people show up when it’s hard.”
Which one do you want to be right now?
💬 Let’s Talk!
If this stirred something in you, take it as a sign: you are so ready for your next level. You deserve to live those dreams — not someday, but now.
Reach out to me here and just say: “Interested vs. Committed — I’m ready!”
I have something special waiting for you — a gift to support your next bold step.
